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Please don’t take offence to what I’ve written, if you feel like I have the wrong understanding of the word or if you feel like I have missed anything please let me know.
Andro/Androgyny/Androgynous: A lesbian who is neither butch nor femme, but may appear as both. A gender fluid butterfly. Might also go by: gender fluid, gender queer.
Baby Dyke: A young, newbie lesbian (can you say “drama”?).
Beard: a “beard” is a person of the opposite sex who marries or dates a closeted lesbian or gay person to cover up their homosexuality.
Bicurious: A straight girl who wants to indulge her lesbian fantasies. (Occasionally, a lesbian who wants to indulge her hetero fantasies.)
Bisexual: A girl (or guy) who likes both girls and boys. This does not mean that all bisexuals date a number of people at one time or that they are unfaithful.
Boi: A boyish lesbian/a soft butch… Typically wearing the snap back and singlet with low rider jeans.
Bottom: Someone who is submissive in bed.
Breeder: A derogatory term for a straight person.
Butch: A masculine lesbian. For women, the term sometimes references not only a look (short haircut, men’s clothing and shoes, lack of make-up) but also an attitude of control and dominance in relation to another woman and of course their gentlemanly manners.
Butch Jaxon – Author of Butch on Tap
Chapstick lesbian: A tomboy lesbian. Doesn’t quite fit the stud or femme description. Usually in between the two extremes. A lesbian who wears Chapstick rather than lipstick.
Clam Slammed: An annoying experience to have – the lesbian example of cock blocking.
Dental Dam: A latex square to be placed over the vagina before oral sex as a safer alternative to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. Sometimes referred to as a female condom.
Drag King: a drag king is a woman who dresses to look like a man, usually for performance. Drag kings are often lesbian, but not always.
Dyke: Another (less Femme) word for lesbian.
Dykes on Bikes: Gay women who ride motorcycles. This is also a name adopted by groups of women on motorcycles who typically lead Pride parades in the U.S. In San Francisco, where at least 100 women typically lead the S.F. Pride Parade each year, the San Francisco Women’s Motorcycle Contingent has trademarked the name “Dykes on Bikes” which now prevents any other group from using the title officially without SFWMC permission.
Fag Hag: A staight woman who loves the company of the gay male community, such as drag shows, and going to gay bars. She also has a best friend that is gay and the have everything in a hetro relationship except the sex part. And they share what best girlfriends have incomon. Most often the gay men she hangs out with ecspcially if she is beautiful are attracted to her, but the attraction is only them admiering her beauty and the drag queens want to be her. And her main fag is usually very proud to have her as a hag. And a true fag hag isn’t ashamed to admit who she is.
Femme: A feminine lesbian. Identifying traits are often painted nails, make-up and “girly” clothes.
FTM: A female-to-male transsexual. May or may not have previously identified as a lesbian.
Gaydar: An intuitive ability to determine whether another person is gay or not. Gaydar relies heavily on social mannerisms and behaviors. The word derives from a combination of Gay + Radar.
Genderqueer: No, that’s not a typo. It’s a word that means you don’t limit your gender identity to the typical man/woman archetype. For instance, maybe you feel like you’re both man and woman, or maybe you feel like you’re neither. Either way, it’s all good.
Gold star: A lesbian who’s never been with a man (a sometimes rare but worthy find).
Hasbian: A long-term lesbian who returns to Dicksville after being in Lesbo-Land for some time (often derogatory).
Femme: A feminine lesbian.
High Femme: High femmes are femmes who intentionally and consistently embrace and express femininity past the point that most straight women do and we may just a little high maintenance.
Intersexual:Describes a person born with genitalia that is not clearly male or female. Along with the sexes Male and Female, there are an estimated 3 other sexes – Ferm, Merm and Herm (see definitions) – as defined physically by genitalia. Research indicates that numerous children are born with ambiguous genitalia but are often reshaped by surgeons usually without parents’ consent or knowledge. These operations can result in emotional trauma, loss of genital sensation and/or loss of the ability to orgasm. Additionally, some people are born with genital sex organs that do not match their XY chromosomes. A notable American novel that has dealt with this issue is Middlesex, winner of the 2003 Pulitzer Prize for fiction. Author Jeffrey Eugenides, an American who lived in Berlin during the writing of Middlesex, tells the passionate and confusing story of a man who seems to be a girl at birth but becomes something altogether different as her life unfolds.
Lesbian: A women who is sexually and emotionally attracted to other women.
Lipstick lesbian: A lipstick lesbian is a woman who loves other women, but also loves her clothes and makeup and shoes. She tends to dress on the femmy side
Malesbian: Harmless but slightly creepy straight guy who thinks he is a lesbian. Often misunderstood.
Marble: A woman who maintains her heterosexual marriage while recognising that she is actually gay. (MARried But LEsbian.)
Meerkat: A straight girl in a gay environment (otherwise known as a fag hag). Easily recognisable by their uncomfortable posture (resembling a market).
MTF: Male-to-female transsexual. Better known as trans woman. Or just woman. Trans women can be lesbians too.
Packing: When a lesbian wears a strap-on under their clothes to give the impression that there is “something else” there. Socks can also be used.
Parthenogenesis: Reproduction without sperm fertilization of a female egg, in other words, Virgin birth. The term is relevant among lesbians – and in lesbian science fiction – where there is interest and desire to live in all-women environments with no need for men in the creation of children. In 2004, Japanese scientists announced the creation of the first fatherless mammal (a mouse) from two female eggs, leading some to believe that not only may it someday become possible to reproduce without men, it may also become possible to for two women to reproduce as well.
Pillow Princess: A girl who likes to receive sexually (but refuses to give in return).
Polyamory: The practice of openly having more than one sexually intimate relationship or partnership with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. This is sometimes abbreviated to “poly” and also referred to as “responsible nonmonogamy.” Polyamory does not describe the act of having more than one marriage partner (see Polygamy). Nor does it describe the act of having numerous sex partners. What defines a polyamorous person is an open involvement in more than one meaningful sexually intimate relationship.
Polygamy: The practice of having more than one marriage partner at any given time. One is said to be polygamous if they are legally married to more than one person at a time.
Queer: Once considered a derogatory word, some people use this term to be all inclusive of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people. Warning: Some people still find this word offensive.
Saysbian: A fake lesbian. Someone who says they’re a lesbian, but only seems to have sex with men because being a lesbian is so chic right now!
Scissoring: What men think lesbians do in bed, what lesbians know we don’t do in bed.
Soft butch: The soft butch is like a Crème Egg; they appear to have a hard exterior but are soft on the inside.
Spagetti lesbian: A woman who is straight until she is wet. So basically get her hot and horny and she’s yours.
Stem: A stem is a lesbian who identifies somewhere between “stud” and “femme.”
Stone Butch: A lesbian who doesn’t like to be touched in a sexual way, always preferring to give than receive. Often found with a “pillow princess”.
Stud: a dominant lesbian, usually butch.
Top: Someone that is dominant in bed.
Transgender: Specifically, this term describes people who live primarily in a gender that is not associated with their birth sex but who have also not opted to hormonally or surgically change their gender and/or do not identify as Transsexual (see definition). For example, a person with female birth sex who is living as the physical gender of a man may often bind her breasts, prefer a male name, identify as a man, prefer to be known as a man, and wear the clothing, hairstyle and other physical indicators of a man. More generally, the term Transgender also describes anyone who lives their personal identity in a manner that crosses gender boundaries, which includes Transsexuals and Transvestites (see definition).
Transsexual: This term describes a person who views their birth sex as incorrect and/or incompatible with their self-image and inner feeling of their gender and who will take steps to change their gender as a result. Some of the methods used in changing one’s gender include hormone therapy and gender-reassignment surgery. Often, the following abbreviations are used to describe people who are in the process of transitioning from one gender to another: F2M means Female to Male and describes women who are in the process of transitioning from their birth sex as female to the gender of male; M2F means Male to Female and describes men who are in the process of transitioning from their birth sex as male to the gender of female.
Transvestite: Anyone who fully dresses in clothes, make-up, hairstyles and other physical attire to purposely identify themselves as the opposite gender or sex and who is more broadly recognized as crossing gender boundaries.
Trysexual: A girl who will try anything once.
U-haul Lesbian: A girl who tends to move in fairly quickly with those she dates.
Vagitarian: A code word for lesbian.
Vajazzle: To give the female genitals a sparkly makeover with crystals so as to enhance their appearance.
Vanilla: Non-kinky, non-risqué sex. Plain and simple intercourse.
If I have missed anything or you feel like my definitions are wrong, please let me know!